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Vic Bowling

Declutter Your Relationships


We meet people, we grow close, and sometimes, we outgrow them. There’s nothing wrong with that—it’s simply life. Nothing stays static for too long, and if it did, we wouldn’t grow or develop.


Just like you declutter your home, it’s worth decluttering your relationships. Some connections no longer serve you or align with your values, and that’s okay.


Even Family Can Use Boundaries


Family relationships aren’t always exempt from the decluttering process. You don’t have to cut family members out entirely, but you can change how often you interact with them, especially if they’re toxic or drain your energy.


For example, if a family member constantly offloads negativity onto you, consider limiting how often and how long you engage with them. Set healthy boundaries that protect your energy while still offering support in a sustainable way.


Letting Go (With or Without Woo-Woo)


If you’re struggling to let go of a friendship or relationship, try a symbolic exercise to help your mind commit to the process.


Imagine a thread connecting you to the person. Picture yourself cutting that thread with scissors, thanking them for the good times but acknowledging it’s time to part ways. Do this daily until the emotional weight of that connection begins to ease. It might feel a bit “woo-woo,” but the important thing is being honest with yourself and creating a clear mental boundary.


Be Proactive With Your Time


Not every relationship needs to end completely. Some, like family connections, can simply be adjusted.


Let’s say you have a sibling who endlessly vents about their problems, never taking responsibility, and it’s exhausting. Instead of cutting them off, limit your interactions to manageable chunks. For example, let them vent for 30 minutes once a week. Set a mental timer (no need to share this with them) and excuse yourself once the time is up.


Gradually, you can introduce ways to steer the conversation in a healthier direction, but the first step is protecting your time and energy.


It’s Okay to Grow Apart


People outgrow each other because we all develop in different ways. Accepting this truth can make it easier to understand when relationships no longer fit into your life.


Think of how children grow and change—they’re always evolving. Adults might not show such obvious growth, but internally, our values, needs, and priorities shift over time due to life circumstances, choices, and the relationships we keep.


Reflect on What Matters


Take a moment to reflect on your relationships. Ask yourself:

• What do I gain from this connection?

• How does it make me feel?

• What kind of relationships do I want more of?

• Which ones would I like less of?


Final Thoughts


Decluttering your relationships is not about cruelty or abandonment. It’s about being honest with yourself and making space for growth, healthier connections, and a happier, more balanced life.



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